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Recently, Marilyn was invited onto the Bernie Keith show on BBC Radio Northampton to discuss divorce and how much the process has changed since first becoming a family lawyer.


When Marilyn first began her career as a solicitor the process was extremely aggressive and so were the older lawyers. One case she recalled handling back then entailed sending a long letter to the lawyers representing their client’s partner which laid out what was required in great detail. To say the response was terse would be an understatement. The letter we received simply read: “Dear Sirs, no.”

That feels like a lifetime ago. Nowadays the attitude of the courts is very different. Now, the goal is to use courts less, to encourage people to settle and to generally be more conciliatory and sensible. The process itself is also far less confrontational.

When Marilyn started, if someone was alleging unreasonable behaviour in their divorce petition (which is still one of the five ways to demonstrate a marriage has irretrievably broken down), they had to stand up in court and give evidence of such behaviour. It was understandably traumatic having all that information out in the public domain. Now, however, the bare minimum of detail is sufficient.

Divorce is much more than the legal process, though. As a divorce lawyer, Marilyn said she hopes that when she meets a new client, and when they are done, they have got their lives back on track and their confidence restored.

That said, Marilyn always tries to encourage clients to be pragmatic and to forget the emotional side as best they can. She believes that the hardest part about a divorce is simply accepting that it’s happening. For a lot of people that’s very hard to do.

Marilyn also talked to Bernie about the importance of counselling, the fact that divorce isn’t for everyone and the effect of ‘Divorce Day’ in January, among other topics.

To listen to the full conversation, click here. Marilyn’s segment begins at 01:22:05 and will be available for the next few weeks.

Marilyn always tries to encourage clients to be pragmatic and to forget the emotional side as best they can. She believes that the hardest part about a divorce is simply accepting that it’s happening.